Saturday, May 16, 2015

Easter 7 - Sermon



That All May Be One
Easter 7 – Year B – May 17/15

It was my pleasure and privilege to lead a memorial service yesterday for Sean Smith, Tom and Linda’s oldest son.  He died a few weeks ago suddenly and unexpectedly.  He was only 49 years old.  Now, I didn’t know Sean but after listening to wonderful stories shared by Tom and Sean’s brothers and sisters it was obvious that I missed an opportunity to know a wonderful man, a great friend and a compassionate human being.  One of the wonderful messages that shared yesterday about Sean was about how true he was to himself.  Sean was gay and as I listened to the stories it became abundantly clear that he was a man of integrity who lived his life authentically.

One of the things about being a gay man growing up in the 70 and 80’s was that our society was not always a welcoming place nor I might add was our church.   During this time our church spent an inordinate amount of time talking about the rights of the LGBTQ population, and whether or not we should allow Ordination for gays and lesbians, whether or not we would support and conduct same gender unions and later in the 2000’s same gender marriages - These conversation often did more harm in than good to congregations.  They became conversations of dissention and conflict and more people left the church on both sides of this issue than probably at any other time in the United Churches history.  Sometimes whole congregations voted to leave the United Church of Canada.

And you may be sitting there asking why on earth would she be bringing this topic up in worship – why dig up that can of worms – after all we have been there and done that and lost members and it was a time of pain and brokenness and conflict and strife – it is better to leave well enough alone – this is not something we want to hear about in a sermon - what is she doing bringing all that up again?

Indeed, I wonder if that is what the disciples are thinking as Jesus talks to them and prays with them this morning.  I wonder if they are thinking – please be quite Jesus, don’t bring this up – we don’t want to talk about this….please don’t talk of the hard and difficult things, its Passover, we are supposed to be celebrating the Exodus, like all good Jewish people do- why do you have to talk about hard things life death and betrayal and denial – and yet here Jesus is in the midst of a prayer mind you – a prayer where Jesus yet again brings up the difficult stuff about his leaving this earth and leaving the disciples behind and that they are ones that will have to be doing the challenging work once he is gone.  Enough Jesus, leave well enough alone!

Our passage this morning is spoken in the Upper room where we have been for the last three Sundays.  John is making a point in this passage that something is going on in this time that is so important that he will devote almost 1/5 of his entire gospel to this small four hour time segment in Jesus life.  4 of John’s 21 chapters take place in the Upper Room; John tells of the tale of the arrest, trial and crucifixion in two chapters and it only takes three chapters for the resurrection experiences – so this 4 chapter upper room moment in Jesus life is incredibly significant to John.  And what Jesus has to say is really important too.  John used repetition as a tool to highlight the significance of these thoughts and prayers of Jesus. Some of our most beloved Jesus passages come from this section – it is here we find “in my Father’s house there are many rooms ”  Here is the new commandment that we must love each other as Jesus loves us – Here also is the promise of the Holy Spirit – and today, in the passage Anne read just a few minutes ago – here we have the promise that all will be one – one in God, one in Jesus, one with each other, one in the world.  All will be one……
This is a significant passage for the United Church of Canada – in 1925 at its inaugural worship service on June 8, this was the scripture that was read – and not only that – when you look at an United Church Crest you will see these words – that all may be one – well as long as you can read Latin or Ojibway – Ut Omnes Unim Sint – means that All May Be One.  It’s kinda like our motto – something to ascribe to as a denomination – the only problem is that we sometimes have a hard time living up to the motto.

When I hear the phrase “that all may be one” I imagine our founding fathers and mothers had a vision in their minds about one Protestant United church that stretched from coast to coast to coast.  Did you know that when they first began talking about creating this church, the Presbyterians, Methodist and Congregationalist – our three founding denominations also included the Baptists and the Anglican too in the original conversations.  The Baptists withdrew from the discussions first, and the Anglicans withdrew in about 1911 – but 65 % of the Presbyterians and all the Methodist and Congregationalists voted to become the United Church of Canada  – so they were not ‘all one’ even at the beginning – but that does not mean that they did not hope they could become one – and talks resumed again in the 1960’s with the Evangelical United Brethren and the Anglicans with the EUB joining in ‘69 and the Anglicans politely declining again in the early 70’s. 

Sometime in the next few decades that focus shifted as the culture shifted and becoming ‘one’ became less about forming one denomination and more about becoming one in heart and mind with others even if they looked different from us and shared a different ways of worshipping or even had a God with a different name.  We began to see similarities where before we had seen only differences.  We began to recognize that our way was neither the only way nor necessarily the right way.  With this new understanding we had to recognized that we had made mistakes in the past, that our attempts to ‘make all one’ sometimes where dismal failures and sometimes were catastrophic mistakes – the residential schools run by the United Church of Canada would be a good example of that.  We as a church began to recognize our complicity in our misguided attempts to make ‘all one’.  And slowly we are coming to the understanding that being one has nothing to do with sharing the same cultural values or skin colour or even faith in Jesus – being one means knowing that we are all beloved children on God – all of us are God’s children…as Jesus said a long time ago in that Upper room as he shared one last meal with his friends.

And he prays for his disciples and he prays for us to be one – one in heart and mind with God, with each other, and with the world – and this is not an easy task – this is not easy work – it is hard, hard, hard to look at my neighbour and love them as myself – to recognize that I am one with them.

What does it mean to be one with someone with mental illness, when what they say and how they act is so confusing and scary and sometimes not safe?

What does it mean to be one with the poor and oppressed, when poverty is written all over them, in how they dress, and how they smell and even how they walk? 

What does it mean to be one with the prisoner, when their decisions to commit horrendous acts confounds and frighten us?

What does it mean to be one with native people, and recognize that it was our ancestors who exploited them and brought disease and did not allow Status Indians to vote until 1960. 

What does it mean to be one with our LGBTQ brothers and sisters when we shut them out or ask them to stay in their closets if they wish to participate? 

Or is the better question – what do they see when they look in my eyes?  Do they see my fear, or disgust or prejudice or lack of understanding – do they see the Christ looking back at them?

Being one with another means that we are willing look into each other’s eyes and see another as a full and complete human being, as a beloved child of God, someone who has the Christ within, so that All May Be One.



Which is why we revisit old situations and former decisions and open up cans of worms and consider how we treated each other in the past – for you know we don’t always walk the path God calls us to walk, nor do we always love our neighbour.  We may have made choices and decisions based on fear or regret or pain or sometimes we don’t even know why we feel the way we do about issues that confront us and we act without thought or care for the other.  Anytime we have missed seeing the Christ in another and have excluded instead of included, anytime we have come to a firm decision about an issue and stand solid on one side or another unable to hear or consider that there might be another way to think about the issue or situation, anytime a choice is made that causes harm to another – it is probably time to sit with those disciples again in the Upper Room again and hear Jesus words of inclusion, hear God’s plan of all being one.  But here is the thing, Jesus is talking about a God of forgiveness, a God of love and a God of do-overs a God who will help us release those canned up worms.  We get the chance to bring healing to brokenness, to offer forgiveness to pain, to care for each other again, to love God and to love our neighbour.  And when we do this, and when we see the Christ in another’s eyes and open up our hearts and minds in love, the kingdom comes and God’s will is done, on earth as it is in heaven.  Amen.

Saturday, May 9, 2015

Sermon for Mother's Day



Tough Love
May 10 / 2015  Year B  Easter 6

Sometimes it is easy to love, the baby that is first placed in our arms, that has been planned for and has grown within us for nine months and waited with wonder and anticipation to arrive.  But what is  they cry all the time and require constant care, or do not turn out the way we had hope they would or make choices as they get older that we abhor.  Is it easy to love then?
Sometimes it is easy to love our partner, when things are going well and the relationship is on track and you feel supported and cared for.  But what if they betray us or do not love us the way we need to be loved, or we discover something about them that we do not know if we can accept.  Is it easy to love then?

Sometimes it is easy to love our neighbour, when we know what to expect from them.  When it is easy to engage in a conversation, and share tomatoes back and forth over the fence.   But what if they live a lifestyle that we do not understand, or you find repulsive, what if their rituals confuse you, or their lifestyle confound you or culture offend you.  Is it easy to love our neighbour then?

Sometimes it is easy to love in the church, when we find comfort and caring within its walls.  When we come and are assured that what we think about God and Jesus is good and that our lives are on track and the funds are being spent well – but what if we don’t find that here, what if instead of comfort we find challenge, what if we do not approve of the way the money is used or the direction the church is going, or agree with what the minister is saying or do not like any of the music, prayers or program the at the church has to offer.  Is it easy to love the church then?

Easy love is not what we are talking about today – easy love – the loving without challenge – that makes us feel good and is never hard – no - what we are talking about today is hard love, is real love.

The hard part about this love is that it is not always a feel good kind of love. This kind of love is kind of like the part of the story of the Velveteen Rabbit where the Skin Horse talks about being real.

You see, the Skin Horse was very old and very wise "and only those playthings that are old and wise and experienced like the Skin Horse understand all about it.

"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does is mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"

"Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."

"Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.

"Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."

"Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?'

"It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."[1]

Our readings today all focus on what it means to have real love, not about the meaning of love – but what it means to love - how love is not just an emotional feeling that one experiences when you look at the one you love – or see something beautiful or feel good about yourself but instead, love is a verb, an action, love is doing something, love is energetic, love is full of life and requires attention and work – love requires hard work – ....love is hard, it is not ‘never having to say your sorry – it most definitely is about being able to say you’re sorry, and forgive another and to learn about another, and to let go of prejudice and fear and mistrust – and sticking with it when the going gets tough, and when things get ugly – and fractious and challenging – that is the kind of love Jesus talks about today – that is the kind of love the writer of both John and the Acts have to talk about today, both stories that help us to glimpse what it is to love God with heart and soul and mind and to love our neighbour as ourselves, the love that makes you real.

Jesus and his friends are still at the last supper – we are still reading through this part of John where Jesus is in the midst of praying for and saying goodbye to his friends as he prepares his heart mind and body for the next stage of his journey which is to the cross.  These are the thoughts and the feelings – the words, according to John, that Jesus shares with his friends and disciples just before he goes to the garden, and subsequently his arrest, trial, crucifixion and death.  Judas has left the building by this point, to go and play out his role in the drama. The rest of the disciples have assured Jesus that they are on board and along side of him and will be there even if things get tough (and as we know – a few short hours later, most have deserted him)  But Jesus is not focused on the future in this moment – he is focused  instead on the present – and he reminds his friends and followers just how much they mean to him, and reminds them that even after he is gone, even after he is not physically with them any longer – he will still be there – still be there loving, caring and comforting them.   He says “I am your friend”   what he is saying really is that “I Love you – I love you Peter and James and John and Matthew and Mary – I love you for real, and because I love you – and because you love me – you will be able to go from this place and from their very confusing time and spread the good news – and tell the world about God’s love and share with your brothers and sisters on this earth more than you ever thought you could – I love you says Jesus and you love me and because of that love – you will be able to go into places you never dreamed possible and face situations that challenge that confront you with love – and be with people whose ways you may not understand, and yet because of my love – you will love them too.  I love you says Jesus and because of my love, you will become more than you ever could be on your own – I love you says Jesus and because I love you, you can become real.

A few months later, after the death, resurrection, and the new reality of what it is to be a disciple of Jesus, Peter is trying to live in the love the at Jesus , he is at the home of Roman Centurion named Cornelius.  It is a pretty risky thing that Peter is doing, hanging out in the home of a Roman, who as a centurion has publicly pledged allegiance to the Caesar who you remember is held up as a god in his culture.  And here he is in the midst of this household sharing with the owners, their servants and others just who Jesus was, what he came to say and how this God that Jesus shared with the world was the only God, and a God of love – and this love – this love of Jesus – this love of God.  I love you says Peter, and God loves you and of course you can be baptized – and feel this love of God running down you like the water on your skin – I love you says Peter even though I am a Jew and you are a Roman – I am a former fisherman and a Christian – and you are a soldier and have grown up with god’s called Apollo and Venus and Diana and Jupiter.  I love you says Peter in spite of our different backgrounds and cultures and lifestyles.  Real love- life giving love – God’s love.  I love you says Peter to everyone around, and let me show you how much – let me wash you with the waters of baptism and help you bathe in the love of God.  I love you says Peter….

 “Love one another as I have loved you,” Jesus says to his disciples.  He’s not talking about a feeling.  He’s not talking about a kind of extended liking.  He’s talking about a way of living that involves coming back again and again to those one loves.  

·       A way of forgiving time and again. 
·       A love that welcomes people as they are. 
·       A love that delights in people. 
·       A love that says in ways big and small, “You are my beloved.  With you I am well pleased.” 
·       A nurturing kind of love. 
·       A life-giving love. 
·       The kind of love we all long for.

Today is Mothers Day—a day fraught with complexities.  For some this is a day that reminds them of the nurturing love they longed for but never received.  Others find in this day a painful reminder of losses—mothers gone, children never born, children dead before their time.  I like to think of this day as a day that invites us to remember the nurturing, loving mothering that runs through every life.  Mothering we receive sometimes from our mothers, sometimes from our fathers, sometimes from our friends, sometimes from teachers or bosses or neighbors, and sometimes from total strangers.  Mothering that is not gendered.  Mothering that is simply an expression of deep, life-giving love.  Mothering love—the love of Christ and the love Christ calls us to.  Real love –
I love you says Jesus, now go and love one another as I have loved you.






[1] Margery Williams:  The Velveteen Rabbit:  George H. Doran Company,  1922